Where do you want to eat for dinner tonight? If you’re asking your partner or spouse this question, there’s a good chance that it will lead to a disagreement or even an outright fight. One party tries to let the other make the decision, and then someone feels compelled to eat somewhere they’re not excited about. Enjoying a dinner out on the town shouldn’t threaten the health of your relationship, but even couples who have been married for decades still struggle to decide where to eat. It’s such a problem that the average couple spends over 130 hours a year just discussing and arguing about this single topic. Reclaim that wasted time, strengthen your relationships and enjoy your dining choices more by using these tricks to figure out where to eat next.
Start with Only a Few Options
Instead of trying to choose from every restaurant in your area, narrow it down to just three to five places you haven’t visited recently or want to try. Present this list to your partner instead of trying to start from scratch with too many choices. An excess of options makes it psychologically difficult to pick any one choice, so a smaller pool of options is always a helpful way to start a discussion.
Alternate the Responsibility
It’s very hard to get two people to agree to the same restaurant because there’s a fear that the person suggesting it will feel responsible if it doesn’t live up to the partner’s expectations. Embrace that fear instead of giving in to it by making one partner responsible for the choice, then switch for the next date night or dinner out. Make agreements that no one is responsible for bad experiences except for the restaurant, taking the pressure out of worrying about making the right choice. You’ll also need to agree that one partner may fall back on their favorite choice each time, or make a rule that it has to be a different restaurant during each partner’s turn to make the pick.
Using a random choice generator, such as the Wheel Decide website and app, takes all of the responsibility out of picking the restaurant. If where you go is no good or only just okay, it’s no one’s fault for making the wrong pick. Wheel Decide is a great option because it can automatically pull restaurants from the Google Local listings if you enter your zip code, or you can build your own list of restaurant options and save it for future use.
Shinto Japanese Steakhouse & Sushi Lounge is an easy choice that takes all the arguing out of deciding where to go. With drink specials, great sushi, and plenty of tantalizing appetizer options, there’s no discussion needed to decide to drop in and see us for dinner.